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Cumberland Heights Talks Gender Roles in Recovery - While every person who walks through our doors is unique, we see similarities among those of the same gender when it comes to feelings of guilt and shame. WATCH VIDEO
Cumberland Heights Talks Gender Roles in Recovery – While every person who walks through our doors is unique, we see similarities among those of the same gender when it comes to feelings of guilt and shame.

Cumberland Heights prides itself on treating the whole patient, and not just the disease. While every person who comes through our doors is unique, we see similarities among those of the same gender when it comes to feelings of guilt and shame.

“Men are unique in the sense that when they come to treatment they are providers for their families. They are fathers and husbands and brothers and sons and they feel that responsibility on their shoulders,” said Vivian Sypolt, Director of the Men’s Program.

Sypolt says many male patients come into treatment feeling like they failed.

“For a lot of them, they feel ashamed or shameful that they need to ask for help and be in treatment so we let them know it’s okay. Going into treatment is providing for your family. It is setting a foundation. If you need help, you ask for help,” said Sypolt.

Women also grapple over the decision to enter treatment because of their many roles and responsibilities.

“Today women have more roles than they’ve ever had before. They work outside of the home, but they are also caregivers for children so I think it’s sometimes hard for women to say, ‘Okay I am going to take care of myself for a minute,'” said Director of the Women’s Program Melissa Hudgens.

And even when they do say yes to treatment, and complete the program, there is worry about making the transition home.

“There is a fear of how am I going to parent when I leave here? The stress of working and taking care of children can be overwhelming. There is fear. How am I going to handle all of that?” said Hudgens.

Hudgens  says that’s why Cumberland Heights’ parenting groups, the children’s program and all of the other continued support we offer is so important.

“They are going to meet other women in recovery who really build them up and support them through some of the most difficult experiences in their lives. It’s not just a treatment experience. It’s about live long relationships with healthy women who really understand what they are going through. It’s beautiful. It’s really beautiful,” said Hudgens.

If you are struggling, the time for help is now. Begin your recovery journey today.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug-addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland river in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.

parenting an addicted childParents battling addiction may lack the ability to provide structure and support for their children. This can be an incredibly stressful time, as children often do not understand why or how their parent became addicted to substances and often blame themselves. The National Association for Children of Alcoholics (NACA) notes that children face a number of stressors when parental addiction is involved, such as conflict within the home, increased isolation and decreased family cohesion. If you are a parent who has been working diligently in recovery and have reached a place where you want to reconnect with your child, you must realize that it will take time.

A study conducted at Western Sydney University in Australia emphasized the importance of empathy and emotion regulation when it comes to re-connecting with one’s child. There are three main aspects to this:

  • Cognitive empathy – being able to understand what your child may be going through and perceiving what his or her feelings may be
  • Emotional reactivity – the ability to respond emotionally to your child’s pain
  • Social skills – being able to gauge the effect of your behavior on your child and on others

Many 12-Step programs endorse this, but it’s important to admit to your child the pain you’ve caused them and explain that it wasn’t their fault. It will take time to rebuild trust, but acknowledging how you’ve affected them is a great place to start. As you work towards strengthening this relationship, maintain open communication and remind yourself to see things through your child’s point of view. They’re hurt and they may be very upset and unsure if they can trust you. This doesn’t mean that you can’t repair your relationship with them, it just means that you’ll have to prove to them – with your words and actions – that you are on the path of recovery and will be staying there.


Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug-addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland river in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.

Call us today at 1-800-646-9998 to take the next step towards your happiness and health.

teen with addictionIt is estimated that approximately 2 million children between the ages of 12 and 17 need treatment for substance abuse concerns. Teens and pre-teens have easier access to substances both in a physical sense and in a virtual sense, as the internet has also perpetuated substance-related activities. If you’re the parent of a teen with addiction, you’re going to find the struggle between ensuring their safety and opening up communication with them while also being firm and setting expectations.

It can be challenging to know what our teens need during this time, but CBS News suggests starting off with exactly what teens don’t need. Here are some parenting tips to avoid:

  1. Failing to tell your teen what you expect of them. Set the boundaries for your teen upon their return home so they know exactly what will and will not be tolerated.
  2. Ignoring your teen’s mental health issues. If you can tell they’re depressed, anxious or experience symptoms of a mental illness, make sure you take the steps necessary to get them additional help.
  3. Blaming yourself for their substance use. Stay focused on the present moment and the fact that your teen is recovering. Dwelling in the past will only hold you back.
  4. Setting a bad example. If your teen is recovering from alcohol, you certainly don’t want to drink around them. Show your teen what sober living is really about – and how much fun it can be, too.
  5. Don’t be judgmental. Set some ground rules, but don’t jump to further conclusions about what your teen will or will not do after they’ve been in recovery. They need your guidance – but they also need your faith right now.

Your teen has been working hard in recovery, but this transition back home is going to take some time and effort too. Don’t rush the process. Stay open and communicate often. Learn more about your teen and rebuild a life of recovery with them, one step at a time.


Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug-addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland river in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.

Call us today at 1-800-646-9998 to take the next step towards your happiness and health.


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