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Woman practicing mantras to promote self-loveValentine’s Day can be triggering for many people in recovery, particularly as the holidays can bring up feelings of sadness, guilt, loss and isolation. Society constantly emphasizes the message (through movies, billboards, etc.) that if we’re not with someone, something is wrong with us – and if we let that false belief in, it will sure make us feel as though we’re not good enough. Addiction recovery is already an important time to restore the mind, body and spirit, but how can we possibly do that this holiday season when we’re being bombarded with messages that tell us we should be searching for love? There’s a gentle, sideways path around this concern, and it’s much more important – deepen the love you have within yourself.

Mantras have been used for hundreds of years to spark kind thought patterns and set out good intentions into the world. When we put our mind to something and acknowledge that desire both to ourselves and out loud, we are much more likely to manifest it within our lives. If you’re ready to strengthen your connection with a Higher Power, with yourself and with your recovery, consider the following mantras:

  • “I am worthy of love.”
  • “I will let me happiness be visible to others.”
  • “I am becoming the person I want to be.”
  • “I surround myself with loving people who support me.”
  • “I am confident in my decisions.”

It may seem a little odd telling yourself these phrases, but you’re sure to find a sense of empowerment from acknowledging them. In 2016, a study published in the journal Life Science Global found that yoga practice, meditation (including the use of mantras!) and self-reflection are some of the most influential ways for those in recovery to relieve stress and promote mental wellness. These types of practices help us get set in the right frame of mind – and before you know it, you won’t even be worrying about Valentine’s Day, because you’re in the works of strengthening your own relationship – with yourself.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug-addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland river in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.

Will I find love in recovery this Valentine’s Day?Recovery isn’t always the best time to find love, primarily because it’s a time when you should be strengthening your mind, body and spirit. Creating a lifestyle that is conducive to your happiness, health and overall wellness takes a lot of time and work – and many people find that maintaining a relationship is quite challenging amidst all of their responsibilities. Valentine’s Day often places so much pressure on us to be in a relationship, but as a commercialized holiday, it’s truly just another day. If you can place less pressure on yourself to find love and place more emphasis on strengthening your relationship with yourself and God or another Higher Power, you’ll find that your life becomes much more enriched – in ways you wouldn’t even imagine.

12-Step programs aim to help people strengthen their relationship with a Higher Power through principles that assert that has humans, we simply don’t have all the answers. By attending 12-Step meetings, connecting with a sponsor and developing connections with others, you’ll find that your perspective on life becomes wider; likewise, as you engage in more holistic practices, such as prayer, meditation, yoga, art therapy and more, you’ll find deeper ways of relating to both yourself and others because greater clarity is found through exploration.

In 2015, the Huffington Post noted several key ways to practice self-love this holiday season:

  • Empathize with yourself. As a human, you’re doing the best that you can. You’re making mistakes, you’re learning and you’re growing. Recognize that.
  • Give yourself space to find your emotions. Addiction makes us tune out from our emotions, but recovery is what reels us back in. Get back in tune with yourself by journaling, listening to music, creating artwork and more.
  • Practice gratitude for how far you’ve come. Recovery is a lifelong process, but you’ve been taking some amazing steps so far. Be grateful for the resources, tools and support you’ve received, and that will bring you even closer to balance and serenity in recovery.

Don’t allow Valentine’s Day to make you feel as though you’re not where you need to be. For those who’ve struggled with addiction, trauma, mental illness and more, recovery is exactly what’s needed for more self-love to take place.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug-addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland river in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.

Will Valentine’s Day Trigger those in recovery?With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, it’s common to start hearing talk about love, relationships, romance and more. American society has coined Valentine’s Day as the official “romance” holiday, and it’s often the day where couples are celebrated; those in recovery aren’t always going to have a significant other, however, and this can be triggering especially if they begin to feel lonely. If this sounds like you this holiday season, don’t be worried. You’re not alone – and to be completely frank, Valentine’s Day is just another day.

The expectations that we hold for ourselves and others around Valentine’s Day truly set us up to pity ourselves. The depictions of a passionate, happy couple on commercials, movies and mentioned in songs often give us the illusion that if we have anything less than this, we’re not living life “right”. According to the United States Census Bureau, however, in 2017, 110.6 million Americans were single; and even those who were dating someone likely didn’t celebrate, because Valentine’s Day is being viewed more and more as a commercialized holiday.

If you’re looking for love this holiday season, start searching within yourself. As cliché as it sounds, we find ourselves happiest and most grounded when we’re at peace with ourselves – and that means getting to know who you are and forming a loving, respectful relationship with yourself. In 2014, Elite Daily talked about some truly inspirational ways to practice self-love:

  • Stop comparing yourself to others
  • Exercise regularly, get good sleep and practice healthy eating habits
  • Develop passions and hobbies
  • Spend time in nature
  • Read a book or make some artwork to express yourself
  • Forgive yourself for the people you’ve hurt

Valentine’s Day could be triggering, but it doesn’t have to be if you don’t let it. Choose to view the day as any other day – because it is. Wake up in the morning, make yourself a healthy breakfast, go for a walk if you’d like and fill your day with activities that enrich your life. Embrace your recovery by strengthening your relationship with yourself, because that’s truly what matters.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug-addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland river in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.


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