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Connecting with a higher power when feeling like you failed in recovery

When everything is going well – for example, when we’ve been participating in our 12-Step program, we’ve maintained our therapy appointments and we’re feeling like we’re making significant progress in recovery – it’s easy to look towards a Higher Power. Pair spirituality with bad days – in other words, moments when we’ve been feeling depressed, anxious, let down, infuriated, etc. – and it becomes a bit more difficult. Many people can affirm that recovery has its ups and downs, and we can’t always predict how we’re going to feel or what situations are going to arise from one day to the next. What we can rely on, however, is a Higher Power to get us through those bad days.

A 2016 study published in the Journal of Religion and Health, found that aspects of spirituality can help people get through even the hardest of times:

  • Feeling God’s presence daily
  • Believing in a Higher Power as a universal spirit
  • Serving as an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) sponsor
  • And more

The more we become involved with our spiritual side, the greater the reassurance we can feel because we’re no longer alone – and not only that, but we can feel confident that as human beings, we don’t have all the answers.

Earlier this year, writer Maria Mooney, MSW, LSW, explained that,

“A lack of connection to the authentic self, important others, a higher power and a larger community can contribute to feelings of isolation and emptiness, low self-worth and a pervasive sense of unhappiness that can contribute to and/or perpetuate addictive behaviors.”

In other words, it’s our connection with a Higher Power – and a sense of strength in spirituality – that can take us to greater heights of strengths no matter what life circumstances are thrust upon us. If you’re ready to overcome addiction and surround yourself with people who can guide you through recovery, speak with a professional from Cumberland Heights today.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland River in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of two 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first. For more information, call 1-800-646-9998 today.

Trusting in a higher power in recovery

When life seems to be going the way we planned for it to, it’s easier to smile, to laugh and to be grateful for what we have. When things go awry, however – that’s another story. We find it easier to curse at the wind – to get mad at all of the people, places and things that have brought us down and to focus on outside circumstances and hold them accountable for how we feel inside. Earlier this year, A Conscious Rethink, a website that publishes information related to mind, body, spirit, relationships and more, described 5 main reasons why we tend to blame things on others when life goes “wrong”:

  1. We’re trying to explain why something happened because we feel a need to know a “cause” for a particular situation.
  2. To attack another person, because we may want to hurt them the same way we felt hurt.
  3. An attempt to defend ourselves – so that we don’t have to focus on ourselves.
  4. It all feels easier when we can blame someone or something else – because then we don’t have to confront the personal responsibility we’ve had on the situation.
  5. We want to feel hurt, broken, angry, etc., and blaming others provides us with the permission we need to act in this way.

A common topic in the 12-Step program is learning to rely on a Higher Power in times of despair. Rather than placing particular blame on someone, we can turn to a Higher Power to explore what we could’ve done differently, or what we could change for the future. By trusting that as humans, we don’t have all the answers, we open our mind – and heart – to exploring more options for better living.

If you’re ready to dive into better mental, physical and spiritual health from active addiction, speak with a professional from Cumberland Heights today.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland River in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of two 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first. For more information, call 1-800-646-9998 today.

Learning to love yourself in recovery

As human beings, we’re already battling a number of thoughts and emotions – and the events of our past, present and future can weigh heavily on us. One of the most challenging aspects of healing for those in addiction is learning how to love oneself, especially if resentment is found; for many people, the beginning of healing is marked by a point of shame, anxiety and fear of abandonment. Nobody likes to face painful life events, but when addiction is active, it’s all too common to fall into the trap of self-defeat and even self-hatred. Self-love in recovery is crucial as we learn to accept the mistakes we’ve made in the past, while also maintaining hope for our future. For many people, 12-Step programs foster this beautiful journey of healing and growth.

Defining Self-Love

While it’s been quite the buzzword on social media lately, self-love is defined as:

“Regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.”

There are many characteristics of self-love, such as:

  1. Not looking to other people or one’ productivity to define their worth
  2. Speaking to oneself with love and compassion
  3. Accepting what we cannot change
  4. Firmly saying “no” if that’s what feels right for us
  5. Setting boundaries for ourselves when it comes to technology and other harmful habits
  6. Knowing ourselves and making our choices based on what works best for our happiness and health
  7. Making time to do things that bring us joy
  8. Not dwelling on past mistakes
  9. Trusting one’s path in life
  10. Learning to set boundaries with others, and more

It always feels so much easier to fall into negative coping patterns of behavior – to blame others for the pain we’ve experienced, to wallow in self-pity over what we can’t have and more. When we look at the bigger picture, however, what does that bring us? How much happiness do we gain from it? In many cases, that negative sense of self-identity is perpetuated, and we only continue to enact an unhealthy relationship with ourselves.

Contributor Joyce Marter told the Huffington Post in 2016 that,

“Self-love is the prerequisite for complete immersion in the abundant flow of light and love in the world around us.”

In order to love ourselves fully, we have to take daily action to improve our relationship with ourselves: and while it isn’t easy, it’s definitely worth it. 

Practicing Self-Love

One of the first and most important aspects of self-love has to do with how we talk to ourselves. Words of affirmation are incredibly important; daily affirmations and recognizing our strengths is key to becoming stronger within ourselves. It’s easy to focus on our weaknesses, what we’ve done wrong, why others shouldn’t involve us in their lives – but there are so many positive, admirable traits about us that deserve to be recognized, too.

Another aspect of self-love is treating ourselves kindly. There are many actions that we can take from this, such as:

  • Preparing ourselves healthy meals
  • Creating and maintaining a clean home environment to bring us peace and serenity
  • Scheduling regular dental check-ups, along with doctor’s appointments and therapy appointments if needed
  • Grooming ourselves with love and care, as well as dressing in a way that makes us feel good about ourselves

Last year, Medical News Today, a website that publishes information related to a variety of health conditions, explained that one of the most common dangers to self-love is perfectionism. When we make perfectionism the most important thing, we tend to experience a number of serious harmful health effects, such as:

  • A shorter lifespan
  • Irritable bowel syndrome
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Eating disorders
  • Depression
  • Suicidal tendencies
  • Slower recovery time from serious conditions like heart disease
  • And more

The reality is that we’re not perfect, nor will we ever be – because we’re human. 12-Step programs often help us overcome this perspective on life by reminding us that a Higher Power is in charge – and by building a stronger connection with a Higher Power, we can recognize that we don’t always have the control that we think we have in life.

Start Self-Love Today

If you’re ready to apply more self-love to your recovery, it’s important to remember that there are going to be many days when you don’t feel like it – but you have to do it anyway because it will pay off throughout the span of your life. It’s about creating healthy habits of treating yourself – and self-love will help you become happier and healthier in nearly all aspects of life. Right now, practice saying these words of affirmation:

I’m doing everything I can to create a great life for myself, and that’s commendable.

I believe in myself and my journey.

I’m a strong person and I can get through whatever obstacles come my way.

If you’re ready to begin the beautiful journey towards healing and wellness, speak with a professional from Cumberland Heights today.

Cumberland Heights is a nonprofit alcohol and drug addiction treatment center located on the banks of the Cumberland River in Nashville, Tennessee. On a sprawling 177-acre campus, we are made up of 2 12-Step immersion campuses, 12 outpatient recovery centers, and 4 sober living homes. We believe that each person has a unique story to tell – and that’s why we always put the patient first.


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